Download PDF You're Not Crazy It Your Mother Danu Morrigan 8601404666162 Books

Product details Paperback 192 pages Publisher Darton Longman & Todd Ltd; UK ed. edition (March 12, 2012) Language English ISBN-10 0232529299

You're Not Crazy It Your Mother Danu Morrigan 8601404666162 Books Reviews

• Purchased the Audible version. 30 mins in and I'm listening with my jaw dropped. After years of blaming myself for not having a decent relationship with my mom this book helped with understanding how her brain is wired. Since childhood I've always aimed to please and did good but never received thanks, praise or emotional support from my own mother. Most of my 20's was tarnished by having hatred toward her because she always tried make me feel like a failure. Never having anyone to understand why I hated my own mom. My own grandmother was the only person bold enough to tell my own mother was jealous of me, her only daughte. At 25 yrs old pursuing a great career and she was the first person to fill my head with doubtful questions. Now at 30 yrs old I refuse to hold onto to hate. I had a very serious and honest talk with her and let her know that she can no longer be apart of my life or her only grandchild(my son)only to get nothing but an ok from her. I must say I'm quite alright with this decision and it has truly put peace in my heart. People who suffer from NPT won't acknowledge anyone's feelings but their own. I considered therapy several times but I knew it would be wasteful (with her) which led me to seek out books like this to gain better understanding of her issues. I'm so grateful that I could set myself free from emotional bondage and finally LIVE.
• This is one book I am not giving away to anyone, or the library. The author tells it so very well by her own experience. I cut my family out of my life 4 years ago now and grieved for the first couple of years. Today, I am so thankful I cut them off and I see my siblings still drowning in denial and playing all the necessary games in order to earn my mother's approval. My mother even has her "golden child" with my being the "scapegoat". Narcissists never change, they will not listen to anything you have to say that might give them insight into their problem and at least in my case, I had to cut off my mother and a sister in order to maintain my sanity. My father is an enabler (that or he is too scared of my mother to say anything) so unfortunately I will never see my parents again until their death. I have no regrets on leaving my family. I still am in touch with one sister (who is so damaged by my mother that she disassociates and has a double personality). My narcissistic mother verbally abused me horribly from puberty until she drove me out of the home. Up to the age of my turning 60, my mother invalidated me, ignored me, let me know my sister (golden child) is her favorite, disagreed with me on nearly everything and when I told her I didn't think she loved me, she didn't deny it and then she denied our conversation about it to my sister, saying she 'didn't remember any conversation to that effect.' She also is so insecure that she worries constantly what other people think and puts on a display of being the perfect mother in a perfect family. And, she is also a raging liar. My family made me crazy and I have warned my sons that they can keep in touch, but beware that within a year or two, you will feel like you're going crazy too. So far they haven't gotten together with my sick family and it's been four years. Anyone out there who reads this book and realizes they have a sick narcissistic mother, GET OUT GET OUT !!! You will feel guilt at first, but in the end, you will have your sanity and your life back. It is NOT true that one can cut off friends, but one cannot cut off family. Sometimes you have to save yourself emotionally and mentally to survive by leaving forever. I have prayed, I have grieved (you will grieve when you finally realize your mother never loved you) and I have survived and you will too. I will never go back. My mother would rather live the rest of her life never seeing me than saying "I am sorry" or "I do love you". I have forgiven her but you couldn't pay me to be in the same room with her. I literally have divorced my family. Enough said.
• I've been struggling for years trying to reconcile my relationship with my mother, both with her and within myself. We've seen 4 different therapists to no avail, and things continue to get worse as she is 83 now and developing dementia (which seems to be making the NPD so much worse). I couldn't understand why it was so difficult to "get my arms" around the situation. Despite being told told by 2 professional therapists that my mother has NPD, I never really researched NPD beyond reading the standard definitions. When I began reading this book it was as if my darkness of confusion had a bright light shone on it. I finally understood NPD and how it affected our relationship (or lack thereof). It was like reading an autobiography, I just needed to fill in the experiences and Danu provided the framework, with all the explanations as to why so many of my interactions with my mother have happened (and continue to happen) the way they did. Danu also provides many ideas for healing, but being able to fully understand what I've been through first is so important in order to begin the healing process. I am so relieved to have found this book as now I can finally begin my journey to healing.
• This book made me feel important, noticed and loved. Loved by a stranger . The best decision I ever made was to read this book . You are important enough to read this book . Danu you are my hero , a soul sister . I hope all our " sisters" out there will get their hands on this book . Now I know what to get my broken friends for Christmas , a piece of their soul back - c-
• I found this book after reading a nasty email from my mother telling me how it's all my fault my sister cant remember her childhood and what a terrible daughter I am. I'm 52 and still being berated by my mother. I'm a grandmother of 3, an entrpenuer, married to a military officer and I'm still being told I'm no good. Thank you Danu for writing this book. I found it and read it in less than 24 hours. I cannot express how liberating it is to hear it is not my imagination, my mother suffers from a personality disorder that makes her be mean and nasty to me. Wow wow I feel so light now. I feel validated. I feel heard and seen. I feel almost whole. I highly recommend this book! My mother had every symptom except the talking a lot. Hers was more insidious, quiet stink eye looks shot across the room. Never happy for my successes, etc. I'm going No Contact with her. I'm done. I loved every sentence in the book. I'm not crazy, she tortured me emotionally since birth. Thank you a million thanks and the "EFT". Is so helpful!